Crisis = Kindness

There’s a popular story first started by John F. Kennedy, that The word “Crisis” in Chinese is composed of two characters meaning “danger” and “opportunity”. Chinese linguists tend to dispute this as popular wishful thinking, but as I learned from my time in television news, You never let the facts stand in the way of a good story.  With that in mind and a blatant disregard for the facts, I’d like to start spreading the story that the word “Crisis” is in fact comprised of three symbols in Chinese, “danger”, “opportunity”, and “Kindness”.

“Kindness” you say, how does that make sense? “Danger” and “opportunity” make sense if you think about it, but if you pull that old thinking cap a little lower over your ears, you’ll realize “kindness” is a natural consequence of “Crisis”. In the past couple of weeks, The Northeast got pounded pretty good by Hurricane Sandy. Now I know bigger hurricanes have made landfall, but a combination of full moon, high tide, and the fact that New York City took a direct hit and was cut in half without power and under water in places made this a pretty bad storm by almost anyone’s standards.

Cousin this was a crisis! There was danger, and there was opportunity, but you know what? There was also an amazing amount of kindness that bonded people together. Amidst the gas shortages and and lack of electricity, there were folks who ran extension cords and multi strips out of their houses so people could charge phones and other battery powered devices. Tenants in affected apartment buildings who didn’t know their neighbors opened their doors and shared candles, food, even blankets and bedding to stay warm and get some rest. It was urban camping where the hardened inhabitants of the Big Apple helped each other. I even saw a story where a family who had all their utilities simply opened their doors and invited anyone inside for a warm meal, something to drink and use of the bathrooms. Why did they do it? Because they felt so fortunate to have what they needed, that they felt compelled to share it with others who weren’t so lucky.  They were paying it forward and  I guarantee their unselfishness will inspire people all over to do the same, which is the miracle of kindness, that it lives on and inspires in perpetuity. So when a disaster strikes New York or another urban center again, Someone will remember this and repeat the act. Awesome huh?

Perhaps it was this that inspired a young boy and his mother to take action down in Texas, Thanksgiving day when a crisis struck. Nay you heard of the horrific chain reaction accident down in Texas on Thanksgiving Day. It was very foggy with visibility of less than a foot. When the fog lifted, there were over 180 cars involved and the interstates were shut down for hours while injured were transported and accidents cleared. Keep in mind we’re talking about this kind of tie up on the busiest travel period of the year.

Crisis, but a young boy and his mother saw opportunity for kindness and they proceeded to make sandwiches from their turkey and trimmings and pass them out to fellow hungry stranded travelers. Amazing right? You doubt my total lack of regard for the facts now? Because I see my good story makes more sense than these facty things you sometimes speak of.

I know when I hear stories like this, I feel good about our future. In spite of the bad things that happened during these crises, there were people who stepped up and made kindness toward their fellow humans the first priority.

So the next time you you hear about “Crisis” being two characters in Chinese, “Danger” & “Opportunity”, step forward and in your strongest most confident voice, wrongly announce that its actually three symbols and “Kindness” is the third one. If you say it with enough confidence, people will assume it must be true, especially when you give a few prime examples, and all of us hearing about it in a speech will get a good chuckle about it later.

Be kind to each other – Sean

Pay For A Stranger’s Meal & Tip At A Restaurant

I love this one. It may be my single favorite act of kindness to perform because for me, it’s instant gratification and it really feels, as Tony The Tiger used to say, “GRRRRRREEEAAAATTT!”

The first time I did it, I saw a son and his mother who reminded me of the meals my mom and I used to share. I called the waitress over and asked her to pass me the check, but not say a word to the people. I paid it, left her a very good tip and instructed her to tell them only that a friend bought lunch and to enjoy the day together. I stuck around that first time and the look on their face was priceless. They appeared like they won the lottery when they walked out, looking around the restaurant for familiar faces with smiles that were as bright as the sun.

Me? I knew I won a lottery that day. When you have one of those days that completely sucks and just need to reboot, try this one. I guarantee it will change your whole day for the better.

Pick Up A Piece Of Trash When You’re Walking Around

This is one of those simple inspiring acts that can lead to others doing the same thing, thus perpetuating the act for a very long time.  When I’m walking around being thoughtless, which is more often than I wish, I’ll think of the example my Mom set. My Mother used to always pick up trash as we walked around, which as a child I thought was kind of stupid. She didn’t toss it, but here she was picking it up. As I got older I realized what a small, but important act it was. My mother wasn’t going to change the world with grand actions, but here she was doing her own little thing to make her corner a little more beautiful for everyone.

Let An Extra Car in Your Lane

Much of the time we spend in a car is time we’re in a hurry. You know what its like when you’re waiting… waiting… waiting for an opening to get out into traffic, and while there are times that each person will let someone in, there are also the times when Jesus Christ himself is not getting in that lane. Take the moment and the thirty feet of extra road that’s required and let an extra car in your lane. Someone’s trying to get to an appointment, or school to take a test, or maybe they just need to put some miles behind them, but you letting them in is a simple way to put a smile on their face and maybe assist them in accomplishing something today.

Mentor A Young Person

The best way to learn and improve is to teach. Spending time explaining your craft or expertise will make you a better professional,
but more importantly will give you a connection with a young person searching for a vocation or a path. Sometimes mentoring youth
is about everything, but the career they want to pursue. It’s about how a professional lives their life. How does a leader in their profes-
sion lead? Do they lead by example, or how do they know when to follow others? Are they responsible, prepared, do they consider
the impact of their actions? Lessons like this may never directly show someone how to be a doctor, mechanic, store manager, or
whatever, but they can give basic lessons in good behavior, which translate to being a valuable and creative worker, no matter what
avenue they choose to pursue.

Do The Dishes and Put Them Away

I don’t mind doing the dishes in the grand scheme of things, but I hate starting the job. Once I’m wet though and up to my elbows in
detergent and water and I got a good scrubby sponge, I’m like a machine. However I have this mental block about drying them and
putting them away. I even have trouble mounting the ambition to take them out of the dishwasher and put them away. Think about
that one. The dishwasher did 99% of the work, and I don’t feel like putting them away… Completing the job and putting them away
so my partner doesn’t have to, is one of those little things that she loves. It’s torture for me to do it, but it’s really appreciated by her
and more importantly, it’s not that hard. I mean it is, but it’s not like I had to walk five miles with buckets of water on my head to do the
job. I just had to break the same mental block I’m sure a few others have to do.

Practice Meditation

“Let us be silent, that we may hear the whispers of the gods” Ralph Waldo Emerson wrote those words over a hundred years ago, yet
still they ring true. You got five minutes? Really, I only need you for 30 seconds. Yeah right. We are all busy, busy, busy. It’s part of liv-
ing the western lifestyle, but is it doing us any good? Sometimes it feels like the sun rises and sets on running fifteen minutes late, but
could you actually name what you what you have accomplished on those days? Try to incorporate five to ten minutes of silence in a
quiet place, which means no music, TV, or reading material in front of you, just silence where you can start to meditate and concen-
trate on your breathing. In and out, in and out and keep it simple.  You will start to notice in short order that the mere practice of
being present will help to lower your stress, and help your thought processes become clearer.

Practice Forgiveness

Practice makes perfect. Practice, practice, practice, but forgiveness is hard. There’s no doubt about it, but to be kind and live in kindness, you must practice and become good at forgiveness.  Kindness is recognizing the humanity in those people you meet everyday, in all walks of life and you have to start with the person closest to you in the entire world, yourself. And this is where the practice part comes in. You need to see it in yourself, or you won’t recognize it in other people. Learn the value of letting go, accepting that you’ve made mistakes, or done some nasty things, and that may be who you were, but its not who you are now, nor is it who you wish to become. Let’s assume you’ve learned how to forgive yourself, now it gets easier. Because once you’ve forgiven the person you’re closest to, (yourself) it gets progressively easier to forgive those around you in your life and forgiveness means letting go of anger, fear, hurt… all the dark emotions which weaken your soul from the inside and keep you
from expanding your spirit to its full potential by robbing you of time spent on more worthwhile endeavors. Think of how much time you’ll return to yourself, and practicing forgiveness becomes easier still. It will help you become a better partner, co-worker…Human Being.